You’re a homeschooling parent. That most likely means that you have relatives and friends who extravagantly frown at you. They find ways to let you know that what you are doing to your kids is bad. You’re a bad parent. You should be ashamed. You should be removed from the gene pool, given the travesty of nature that you are. You should be nailed up by your thumbs, no form of torture is too painful for you.
Don’t worry. Every homeschool family gets this garbage from time to time. It almost always comes from just a few types of people. 1) People who would never be willing to commit to their own children the time and resources that you have. They can’t be “wrong” for NOT doing the right thing, what you are doing – so YOU must be wrong. 2) People who have completely bought into the “press” regarding how important schools and teachers are. Though they may be genuinely concerned and caring, still, they are misguided. And 3) teachers, school administrators, school psychologists, school board members, the Department of Education – all those people whose jobs absolutely rely on you accepting them as “experts” who know more than you do about your own child. They are not “misguided”, they are just lying to protect their jobs.
You suggest to such people that your child is fine, more than fine – he seems to be doing considerably better than his friends in public school. In response, you receive grim glares, frowns, sighs of annoyance. Don’t you KNOW? Aren’t you AWARE? It’s a hard world, out there! It’s tough! Times are tough and competitive! How will your child ever learn to work with others, if he homeschools?! How will he learn to get along? How will he learn to “bear the whips and scorns of time” (Shakespeare, Hamlet), or the fists and words from the inevitable haters and detractors he will encounter?! Listen, bad mom and dad, you MUST not homeschool your kid! He’ll end up insular, uncommunicative, alone, emotionally crippled, living a twisted life in misery in some dark apartment, wasting his life away without any sense of the value of social contact with others.
Not exaggerating here, I’ve heard all of it.
I know, I know. Right now, a lot of homeschoolers and their parents are laughing, and rightfully so. We know that such arguments are not merely incorrect, but disastrously wrong. But listen, folks, a lot of people aren’t laughing. They believe all this bunk. They think it’s true. They believe despite the numbers, the statistics, the clear proof that this is patently incorrect. They have been told many times that it’s true by “experts”, and by their friends who only have their best interest at heart – and who have studied the “experts”. In fact, sadly enough, most people have completely bought into this monstrous lie, the lie of the need for public schools and the “socialization” which they provide.
It is a lie. The need for socialization is a nasty, destructive, and a very useful lie to those people trying to keep their destructive and useless jobs. Keep reading.
Make no mistake. The “need” for “socialization” and for any sort of schooling is a complete fabrication. We won’t get too much into why schooling is not needed, not in this article, though I’ve written books and over a hundred articles covering it, and I will write about it again, soon.
But we will talk about “socialization”.
What is “socialization”, this thing homeschool parents are endlessly told they must allow their child to experience or the poor kid is doomed? It is essentially the idea that a child should be exposed to others in groups. These groups are sort of representative of society at large. In being exposed to them as a young child, he’ll learn to adapt to exterior, social pressures and needs. In other words, he’ll learn to “get along”, to “go along”, to “conform”, to be “a part of”.
Yes. Well. Sheep “go along”. Leaders rarely “go along”. Nearly every great discovery or creation or human development, every major religion, scientific invention of note, political systems, work of art…almost everything we as human beings hold in high regard…was invented or created or discovered by individuals who did NOT go along, did not conform, and were not a part of. If you know your history at all then you absolutely know this to be true. So right away, shouldn’t we be asking – why do we want “socialized” people? Certainly not to move mankind forward. So if not to move us forward and improve life for all of us, what exactly is the real agenda of “socialization”?
What do we want billions of sheep for, the clear and intended result of socialization, per its creator and founder.
(The following is excerpted and adapted from my Homeschool Teacher Training Course on Socialization.)
“Socialization” is a buzz word. It was first coined by Charles Horton Cooley (1864-1929). Cooley was an instructor at the University of Michigan in sociology and economics. It’s important to know that he taught both sociology and economics, as you’ll soon understand.
Let’s discover a few things about Cooley, from his writings. He was not a scientist. Scientists believe in numbers. They believe in statistics and provable, verifiable, repeatable results. In his writings, Cooley made it quite clear that he had no interest in statistics, only in “observation”. And he would often use his own children as “guinea pigs”. Additionally, he did not believe that people have any innate, inner ability to formulate a sense of morals or integrity. He believed that such things were taught, and almost entirely learned from the groups that a young person belongs to.
Mr. Cooley had many “interesting” ideas. He believed in a class or caste system. He felt that each “class” would contribute something different to society. This is much like the old and rotten system in India in which each “caste” has its own unique assignment, from the philosophical life of a Brahmin to the manual labor of an “Untouchable”. This is a system which many social reformers (including such people as Gandhi) despised and tried to change.
So the acceptance of one’s “place” in the world and one’s inherited work was an important part of Cooley’s view of life. To quote Mr. Cooley directly: “How is a man to find where he belongs in life? The more original he is, the less likely is he to find his place prepared for him.”
So don’t be “original”, that’s his suggestion. Instead, find the place prepared for you. There is no “free will”, or freedom of decision. Your life was decided not by you, not even by God, but by the circumstances of your birth. So spake Cooley.
What a sad view of the potential of the individual. He believes each of us incapable of creating our “place” in the world. We are incapable of changing our lives. We all live the life we were doomed to live at birth, and cannot change direction. This does not leave much room for personal interests, growth, creativity, or any other personal factor that many of us cherish, does it? It’s also so patently wrong as to be breathtaking in its stupidity.
History books are loaded with THOUSANDS of true stories of people who changed their lives, and then the lives of others. You KNOW people who, through their own efforts, changed their lives for the better, and perhaps the lives of others. You KNOW people who defied “fate” and learned to do something other than the work of their family, their father. You may well BE such a person. Yet, Cooley’s reasoning here is a rationale supporting socialization, as clearly stupid and wrong as his reasoning is.
There’s more. Mr. Cooley believed that society was the all-powerful shaper of a person’s very nature. Not God, not heredity, not even the person himself. Nope, the crowd shapes the man. That’s his belief and the mainstay of argument behind “socialization”.
Cooley did not believe that individuals shaped themselves, or for that matter, that they even shape society. (Where did society come from, then? Um, gosh, don’t ask such difficult questions.) We are each the result of the needs of society alone, and should accept and embrace that fate.
It’s all so silly and wrong, but there you have the underpinnings of the concept of “socialization” that largely drives education today.
Mr. Cooley’s texts have become a staple in the Psychology business, and little surprise there. But how do all of Cooley’s ideas fit nicely into economics, the real reason they are employed by schools today? Why do public school teachers and their unions use Cooley’s ridiculous assertions as their bizarre, misshapen weapon in their attempt to murder homeschooling?
More to come.
As you probably know, I am an advocate for homeschooling. It’s my belief that homeschooling potentially provides a student with a vastly superior education than schooling in any form. This is backed up by a lot of numbers and research. I’ve taught for public and private schools, at the University level, as a private instructor in thousands of workshops, and as a homeschool dad running a homeschool group. Homeschooling by far works best for most students- and most families.
But I understand that many parents do not believe they can effectively homeschool. They’ve been told that they “don’t have degrees,” and that they “aren’t qualified.” This is all nonsense, of course. You’re legally not required to have any kind of a degree to homeschool your kids anywhere in the U.S. A lot of people who have degrees and who call themselves “professional teachers” are simply awful, and even destructive at what they do. A lot of parents…hundreds that I know of…have homeschooled their kids right into universities and careers.
In a serious effort to make homeschooling easier to do, and more commonly successful in terms of education received, I’ve authored my own curriculum. It took some 15,000 hours to write, over more than a decade of work, and is intended to replace the need for schooling a student from age 5-Adult Continuing Education. The curriculum is called Steps (or “CTT”). It has been used by over 20,000 students worldwide over the past 10 years. Hundreds of “success stories” attest to how well CTT works.
CTT courses are written in a way that gradually allows the student to take over his own education. Each course itself largely does the teaching, relieving mom and dad of that duty unless they wish to use our daily lesson plans in various subjects as springboards for family discussion and discovery – as many families do, every day. The parent has the job of making certain the student is working and has what they need to study. (And you’ll need to find a good math program for homeschooling as we don’t provide one. There are many.)
Below are links to our site discussing each level of curriculum, and every subject at that level that we offer. (You can start any level at any time. We don’t have “semesters” that start at a certain time, and each course stands alone well.) You’ll find free videos describing how every subject and each level works. You’ll discover free samples of every course we offer. Our site offers many other services and surprises, including numerous free courses you can download and try out.
Starter is for ages 5-6, and for preliterate students of any age. It focuses on starting to develop literacy skills, while teaching about various subjects. Starter includes full two-year programs in Reading, History, Science, Creative Writing, and Living Your Life, courses that develop life and study skills for the youngest students. Every lesson plan at the Starter level works to develop literacy.
Elementary is for ages 7-8, and for students who are developing literacy. It includes two-year programs in Reading and Spelling, History, Science, Creative Writing (which also teaches the parts of language at this level), and Living Your Life courses which develop life and study skills in preparation for more advanced studies to come.
Lower School (ages 9-10) offers two-year programs in Study Essentials, Reading and Spelling, History, Science, Creative Writing, P.E. Electives, and in various arts such as Animation, Music Theory, and Acting. At this level, students must read fairly well, and studies are progressively turned over to the student.
Upper School (ages 11-High School, and Adult Continuing Education) provides programs in Study Essentials, Reading and Spelling, History, Science, Creative Writing, Current Events, Literature Guides, P.E. Electives, and in arts such as Animation, Acting, Music Theory, and Music History.
For parents who wish to teach at home, but are intimidated at the thought, and for parents who just wish to improve the homeschool experience, we offer a ten course homeschool program for homeschool teachers, as well as several books about education and homeschooling today.
We want you and your children to win with homeschooling!